The wedding was intimate, outdoors, on a beautiful deck overlooking rolling hills of changing trees.
The after party was on the roof of a hundred year old building under a sky filled with hanging lights and lanterns.
The entire affair was beautiful and amazing. It could not have gone better.But it wasn’t without some fretting before hand.
Whenever I officiate a wedding I always worry about two things – what to say (how to be personal, reverent and humorous) and what to wear (how to look nice, feminine and somewhat official, without distracting from the bride and groom’s looks.)
This is what I wore and some of what I said. I think I did okay.
In her book Eat, Pray, Love Elizabeth Gilbert says this “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” I believe that together, Jeff and Amy have found this in each other, but with a beautiful caveat -they are honest and tender in their mirroring for each other. They do not use their mirrors as weapons, but instead as gentle reminders of who God created each of them to be. That as their imperfections will show up with merciless clarity in that mirror (as Anne Morrow Lindbergh reminds us) that they will not recoil in shame, but instead work on those imperfections in the warm light of their love and respect and patience for each other.
So, as we go forward today, as Jeff and Amy take their vows, as we leave here to go to an amazing roof top party, as they begin their new life as a family – bringing together both of their friends and families into this new life, there are still a lot of unknowns. One of the great things about getting married at this stage in your life, is that I believe that they are wise enough to know that marriage is not a solution to your problems. In fact I can guarantee that they will have tough times. And I guarantee that at some point
one or both of them will wonder why you took this leap of faith, if it is worth all the work. But as the very wise and astute philosopher Dolly Parton says “ Storms make trees take deeper roots”
So, with that in mind, I also guarantee that if they don’t take this leap, right now, in front of God and all of
you, their very most favorite people in the the world, that they will regret it for the rest of their lives.